On Marriage

Seal says his wife is his best friend, first and foremost. "There are certain things that you may take for granted with your spouse, but there are very few things that you really take for granted with your best friend," he says. "You never really want to let your best friend down. The fundamental thing that you have for your best friend is respect. That's why I view her first as my best friend…then my wife."
-Oprah Winfrey, 10/25/07 episode on Famous Couples

I think this succinctly explains why I have not focused the attention on finding "The ONE". I see lots of happy couples, and a part of me wants that for myself. However, in my family, 3 out of 4 marriages have failed. Those odds are worse than the last time I checked the national average is one in two.

Alas, I have a number of really good friends in my life. There are a number of guys I've vacationed with over the years. There are boys around the country with whom I have flown thousands of miles to visit for a long weekend. We connect in so many ways, but there is just no je ne sais pas. Don't get me wrong, each guy is sexy in his own way -- from the physical to the mental to the emotional. But nothing seems to happen. Perhaps they are not attracted to me. Perhaps I have too many barriers.

I wonder how many other people see their spouse as a friend first and as a spouse second?

Dumbledore is GAY!

I was checking my yahoo account when I saw the headline flash by. I about died! JK Rowling decided to out Dumbledore -- one of the most powerful and respected wizards of all time.

I was first shocked. Then I became angry when I read how he was outed. JK was asked the question if Dumbledore ever finds true love. And she blurts out he's gay?

Are gay men not capable of finding true love?

Perhaps she should have stated that he did fall in love once with a man, and the love was not requited. That would have sufficed. Then we would have all gasped. And perhaps she would continue with all the other teachers at Hogwarts. What about Minerva? Snapes? Flitwick?

I'm a little upset.